If you are a person that considers themselves to be successful, if you believe with all surety that you are not failing at something, anything, this article, is not for you.
What I am about to tell you right now is an utter contradiction to what the title of my article is. The fact that you have continued to read on tells me that you have failed at some point in your life. You might have failed at starting a business, getting into your desired college, you might have even failed at keeping a diet. However, before you can jump to any erroneous assumptions, I am not writing this article to mollycoddle you, and tell you that it’s a pity that you failed but “Oh! You will be fine.” No.
The first thing that we all need to understand, is that if we want to be successful, there is no scope for self-pity. There is no point in telling yourself things like “It wasn’t your fault,” “You worked hard, you deserved better,” or “Life is so unfair.” If you failed, for 90% of you, you did not work hard enough. Have you ever compared the lifestyle of a successful person to yours? Well maybe you should, and work on what you’re not doing right. Just to be clear, though, I do not mean you need to become that person. I have noticed just about as many times as I have seen the quote, “Winners focus on winning. Losers focus on winners.”
Failure does not define you. It is merely a phase, and believe it or not the power to change that state rests with you at all times. The minute you chose success over failure in your head, winning over losing, working over procrastination, you become an element of change. It is up to you, and only you, to decide whether you are going to let failure consume you, the way it does to the 90% of people do not just fail, but choose to fail or whether you are going to get up and use failure to motivate you.
So you think failure is already above you? Well, failure, this conception of failure you have created in your head that is eating through it like cancer, poison, is pulling you down, and you cannot pull someone down if you are already above them. If the thought of failure being superior to you still persists, remember that if failure really is above you, you can use it as a stepping stone. Now, if you have noticed, and I am not telling you to use your opponents, enemies as your stepping stones, for your only true enemy is failure.
We must not just sit behind the same desks everyday living the same mundane lives acting like we have nowhere to go, cursing ourselves, wishing we were the people whose companies we work for. Well guess what, Rome was not built in a day, neither was Google, Apple, Facebook or any other company or person that we hold up as successful today.
Being successful does not simply mean achieving your goals, it means not giving up even when you think you will not achieve them. The minute you pass through the phase of “I won’t make it,” you will. The minute you realize that failure is nothing more than the biggest and hardest, yet most important test you will ever take, and you fixate your mind on topping it, success will follow you.
Another thing I would like to point out, is that we must not be blinded by what will come after, or more realistically in such a situation, if, we become successful. Many a times I have come across people who say things like “I’m going to buy a company and become really rich, and then buy ten cars and this expensive watch…” Well if I am being honest I do not think Mark Zuckerberg thought about owning a huge house with the money he would earn while he was creating Facebook.
You are probably wondering why you should listen to anything I say. After all, I am just a fourteen year old girl, what have I ever achieved to be able to say this to you? Well, call me what you want, a hypocrite, inexperienced, but the truth is, that just like all of you, I too, have a dream. We’re all dreamers, it is an innate quality of ours.